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If you are unhappy with the judge — your rights, appeals and McKenzie friends

Representing yourself in the family court is hard, and it is harder when you feel the judge is not listening. You do have routes: some are about the decision, and some are about the behaviour. They are different, and using the wrong one wastes time.

Information only. This is not legal advice. Court procedures and the law change. Always confirm with a solicitor, Citizens Advice, or a domestic abuse advocate before acting.

In plain English

  • A decision you disagree with is an appeal. Rude, biased or unfair behaviour is a complaint. They go to different places.
  • Appeals have short deadlines — usually 21 days from the decision in family cases. Do not wait.
  • You cannot appeal just because you dislike the outcome. You need an error of law, a serious procedural irregularity, or a decision no reasonable judge could have reached.
  • You can take a McKenzie friend into court to sit with you, take notes and quietly advise. You do not need permission to have one, though the judge can refuse in rare cases.

Appealing a decision

What you actually have to show

  • The decision was wrong — a mistake of law, a mistake about the facts that matters, or a decision outside the range a reasonable judge could reach; or
  • The hearing was unjust because of a serious procedural irregularity — for example you were not allowed to give evidence, key evidence was ignored, or PD12J was not followed and no fact-finding was held where abuse was alleged.

The legal detail

  • Rule 30.12(3) Family Procedure Rules 2010: an appeal is allowed where the decision was wrong, or unjust because of a serious procedural irregularity.
  • Permission to appeal is normally needed (Part 30 FPR 2010) and the usual time limit is 21 days from the date of the decision, unless the judge sets a different period.

How to do it

  • Ask the judge for permission to appeal at the end of the hearing — say it out loud, it costs nothing.
  • Ask for a transcript or the judge's written reasons. There is a scheme that can pay for transcripts for people who cannot afford them.
  • File form N161 (appellant's notice) with your grounds of appeal — short, numbered, each one saying what the error was.
  • File within 21 days. If you are late, ask for an extension of time and explain why, but assume it may be refused.
  • Get advice before filing if you can: legal aid, a law clinic, Support Through Court, or a direct access barrister for a one-off look at your grounds.

Watch out

  • Do not appeal a case management decision unless it is serious — you can often ask the same judge to revisit it more cheaply.
  • Losing an appeal can carry a costs risk. Ask about it before you file.

If the judge is biased or behaving badly

Asking a judge to step down (recusal)

If a fair-minded observer would think there was a real possibility of bias, you can ask the judge to remove themselves from your case.

  • Raise it at the hearing, politely and calmly, and ask for it to be recorded that you applied.
  • Give the reason — for example a connection to the other party, or comments that show the mind is made up.
  • If refused, that refusal can itself be a ground of appeal.

Watch out

  • Feeling that the judge disagrees with you is not bias. Bias is about a real possibility that the judge cannot decide fairly.

Complaining about behaviour

  • Complaints about a judge's conduct — rudeness, discrimination, falling asleep, refusing to let you speak — go to the Judicial Conduct Investigations Office (JCIO), normally within three months.
  • The JCIO cannot change the decision. Only an appeal can do that.
  • Complaints about the court office, lost papers, delays or the building go to HMCTS through the court's complaints process, then the Parliamentary and Health Service Ombudsman via your MP.
  • If a special measure you needed (a screen, a separate entrance, a separate waiting room) was refused, put that in writing — it may also be an appeal point.

The legal detail

  • s.65 Courts Act 2003 and the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 provisions on special measures and on the prohibition of cross-examination in person by an alleged abuser (a qualified legal representative can be appointed by the court instead).

Representing yourself well

Practical things that make a real difference

  • Ask for special measures in advance, in writing, on form C1A or by email to the court — screens, separate waiting, joining remotely, staggered arrival.
  • Bring a written 'position statement' — one or two pages saying what you want the court to order and why. Judges read them.
  • Number your pages and take three copies of everything: you, the judge, the other side.
  • Write your three key points on a card. If you freeze, read the card.
  • Ask the judge to explain anything you do not understand. You are entitled to understand your own hearing.
  • Ask for the order to be read out at the end so you know what was actually decided.

McKenzie friends

A McKenzie friend is someone who sits with you in court to support you. They can take notes, keep your papers in order, and quietly give you advice during the hearing.

  • What they can do: sit beside you, take notes, organise documents, whisper suggestions.
  • What they cannot normally do: speak for you, question witnesses, or sign court documents — that needs the judge's permission ('rights of audience'), granted only case by case.
  • You do not need permission simply to have one, but tell the court in advance, in writing, giving their name and whether they are being paid.
  • The judge can refuse if the person would not help the fair running of the case — for example if they are a witness or have a personal interest.
  • They can be free (a friend, a family member, a charity volunteer through Support Through Court) or paid (a professional McKenzie friend).
  • Paid McKenzie friends are not regulated and are not insured like solicitors. Ask about experience, cost in writing, and never let anyone tell you to hide things from the court.

The legal detail

  • The Practice Guidance: McKenzie Friends (Civil and Family Courts), issued in 2010 by the Master of the Rolls and President of the Family Division, sets out the presumption in favour of allowing a litigant in person reasonable assistance.

Watch out

  • Family hearings are private. Your McKenzie friend must keep what they hear confidential.
  • Be careful with anyone who promises a result, charges large sums up front, or encourages you to attack the other parent rather than focus on the children.

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